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A GLASS BLOCK WINDOW IN THE BRICK HEART

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Contributed by: Bob Kuebler YWAP on 6/30/2008

This is Chapter 6 from a book on emotional healing called
"THE BRICK HEART."

A GLASS BLOCK WINDOW IN THE BRICK HEART

"Why do I have to climb the mountain?" Mitsy asked. "Can't I just look at the pictures that you took from the mountain top?" "I'll be able to see what you saw and it will be just like being there!" Baba was getting frustrated trying to paint her friend a picture of what you feel when you actually go through the very arduous ascent of a mountain. "Well I suppose you can see what I saw but I think you're on a seesaw Mitsy." Baba replied. "You're always going up and down and never stay around long enough to really feel the experience of the benefits of hard work. You do the same thing in your relationships."

"What are you talking about?" Asked Mitsy, you could hear the anger and hurt in her voice. Her whining was starting to sound like a squeaky gate that had been rusting like the Tin Man without his oil can. "What does not wanting to climb a mountain have to do with my relationships?" "Look Mitsy," Baba replied calmly. "You have to have the courage to do the hard work in a relationship. You don't just stand on top of the mountain and look at the beautiful view, you have to do the hard work of climbing to the top through some very strenuous situations. Every time you face adversity or conflict, you become like the dog bobbing his head in the back of the car window. It's like you're saying; 'Well, that's the way it is and there's nothing I can do about it. So I guess I'll just pretend everything is okay and I won't make waves.' Mitsy, conflict can help you grow, but you have to get involved, you can't just stay on the outside looking in.

IT'S EASY

It's easy... to look at pictures of a storm.
It's easy... to sit by the fire that's warm.
It's easy... to gaze out your window at the swiftly falling snow
It's easy... to sit by the dancing fire and feel it's warming glow.

You suddenly realize that.......
Somebody is going to have to shovel that snow.

It's easy... watching your neighbor shovel their snow.
It's easy... to hope someone shovels your snow.
It's easy... to close your eyes and wish it would melt.
It's easy... to gain weight and loosen your belt.

Is there snow on your relationships?
Are you watching through the window and not doing the work of snow removal?
If you watch long enough, the snow will be deep enough to bury..... YOU!

Luke 6:41 The Message
"It's easy to see a smudge on your neighbor's face and be oblivious to the ugly sneer on your own. Do you have the nerve to say, 'Let me wash your face for you,' when your own face is distorted by contempt? It's this I-know-better-than-you mentality again, playing a holier-than-thou part instead of just living your own part. Wipe that ugly sneer off your own face and you might be fit to offer a washcloth to your neighbor.

Brick hearted people usually leave a window in the brick of their hearts to see out into the relationship world. If you look at something long enough, you almost feel like you are a part of it. By focusing intently on something that is desirable for long periods of time, you create the illusion that you have what you desire. By ignoring conflict, you are playing a "holier-than-thou part."

When you look out the window of your heart,
and see the storm without getting involved,
you are adding to the intensity and longevity of the storm.

He Say's - She Say's

The Dude
"Well, I go to work, bring home the bacon, rub her back every 3 weeks and clean the dog doo out of the yard. What else could she want? She says she wants more of my time just talking to her. Maybe I should listen more...hmmmmm?

James 1:22 The Message
Don't fool yourself into thinking that you are a listener when you are anything but, letting the Word go in one ear and out the other. Act on what you hear! Those who hear and don't act are like those who glance in the mirror, walk away, and two minutes later have no idea who they are, what they look like.

(A mirror is another window.)

The Dudette
"He should know what I want. I shouldn't have to tell him.
Why can't he see the directions on
'How To Treat A Woman' tattooed on my forehead?
Maybe I should just take a chance and tell him exactly how I feel...hmmmmm?

2 Kings 8:4-6(The Message)
The king was talking with Gehazi, servant to the Holy Man, saying, "Tell me some stories of the great things Elisha did." It so happened that as he was telling the king the story of the dead person brought back to life, the woman whose son was brought to life showed up asking for her home and farm. Gehazi said, "My master the king, this is the woman! And this is her son whom Elisha brought back to life!" The king wanted to know all about it, and so she told him the story. The king assigned an officer to take care of her, saying, "Make sure she gets everything back that's hers, plus all profits from the farm from the time she left until now."

(The lady told the King what she wanted and she got it!)

Intelligently Vulnerable

The Brick Heart is made up of many bricks composed of past relationship failures. We build in Glass Block Windows to give us the temporary satisfaction of seeing the type of relationships we desire without having to take real relationship risk. It's kind of like going out on a date with the same person 1 or 2 times. We know we won't go out for a third date because that would almost become serious. That would mean we might have to come out and shovel snow!

Are we willing to lift up the individuality of the person
we seek to have a relationship with?

To be continued...............hmmmmm.

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